Keeping It Real MaMa
Building a family routine
Often find yourself running in circles trying to get structure i. The house with multiple kids? Every home needs a good structure cracked down and followed. I can tell you that as a mom with 7 kids my days used to feel like they would never end. I started my kids at an early age to get on routine. This was like a miracle worker and everything just fell in place and I was getting more done and finding more time to accomplish things I wanted to do not just running back and forth trying to complete what I had to do.
There’s a difference in your life when it comes to the things you wanna do or the things you have to do. Clothes need to be washed? Of course , this has to be done. Mom wants to give herself a pedicure. You don’t have to but you want to. So how do you manage a busy day between work, keeping a clean home, cooking and doing the things you wanna do?
Get on a routine that works for everyone.
What is a routine?
Ever visit a daycare and notice they have a set schedule of how they deal with your kids. Literally even the baby room has a set schedule. This is house you bhild structure and create good habits. The more you teach your kids what they need to do in a day and be persistent the more in routine they will be.
You wake your kids up in the morning to get ready for school, teach them to go brush their teeth, brush their hair and go make their bed. Then it’s time for breakfast and any other morning activity they need to complete. Taking a vitamin etc. the more you teach a child this routine the more likely they will begin to do this themselves without having to be told. Yeah I got a good laugh out of that one , but it really does work believe it or not.
The trick is not to wait for them to start school to get in these habits. Start them early. The earlier they start the earlier they learn to keep up with this structure. Now of course the morning is not our only part of the day that needs routine in it we still have the afternoon and evening.
If you serve lunch in the afternoon or we’ll their a little older and can make themself a lunch teach them to clean up and wash out any dishes or silverware even cups that they use. If you don’t you will always have a sink full of dishes. I was always taught to clean as you go in the kitchen and to never cook with a sink full of dishes.
Teach your child/children how to properly operate the washer and dryer as well. In my house I bought a laundry basket for everyone’s room and they all do their own laundry. Not only are you keeping a routine going to help yourself from a heavy overload of chores but your also teaching them responsibility. I see it this way most kids have video games or cell phones and if they can operate this they can operate a washer and dryer.
When dinner comes along give your child/children responsibility of setting the table, clearing the table, wiping the table down etc. create a chore list for home. I’m not saying slave your kids but let them help you. They need this to learn for when they grow older so they have morals to live by and will carry this on to their children.
Create a chore list and get the routine going with responsibilities. Trust me you will thank me later. I myself used to just do everything as much as I could because talking to kids sometimes is like talking to a wall. I was constantly tired, worn out, overwhelmed, stressed out trying to keep up with running two businesses , cleaning home, laundry, advertising, cooking and everything else. This doesn’t even include going to the stores for shopping, taking kids to appointments, and all their outside activities.
I felt like I was beginning to miss out on activities with the kids as all I was doing was trying to balance out my day and still stay awake to at least eat dinner and not wear it when my face falls in my plate of food. Now I have more free time on my hands to do the things I love to do including spending more time with the family and resting more. The fact that I’m OCD and suffer anxiety never helped me through the day without feeling like I had to get everything done.
What chores are age appropriate for your kids?
Toddlers ( 2-3 years old)
Put their toys away
Fill up a cat or dog’s food bowl
Place clothes in the hamper
Dust or wipe baseboards with socks on their hands
Pile up books and magazines on shelves or tables
Help make the beds
Mop small areas with a dry mop
Preschoolers (4-5 years old)
Make their bed without supervision
Clear the table
Use a hand-held vacuum for crumbs or room edges
Put away clean utensils
Wash plastic dishes with supervision
Assist an older sibling with setting the table
Help bring in light groceries
Sort laundry into whites and colors before wash
Match socks together
Dust with a cloth
Care for an animal’s food and water dishes
Primary Schoolers (6-9 years old)
Sweep the floors
Help make bagged or boxed lunches
Rake the yard
Clean their own bedrooms, with minimal supervision
Put away the groceries
Load the dishwasher
Empty the dishwasher or drain
Help a parent prepare dinner
Make their own snacks/breakfast
Scrub the table after meals
Put away their own laundry
Take the family dog for a walk (in the yard or with supervision)
Empty indoor trash bins into the kitchen trash
Middle Schoolers (10-13 years of age)
Wash the dishes or load the dishwasher without assistance
Wash the family car
Prepare easy meals without assistance
Use the clothes washer and dryer
Take the trash to the bins
Take the trash bins to the curb
Babysit younger siblings with parents at home
High schoolers (14 years +)
Clean out fridge
Help deep clean kitchen (appliances and cabinets)
Clean the toilet, sink, and shower in the bathroom
Babysit younger siblings independently (for short periods)
Mow the lawn
Care for pets independently (including walks)
Make more complex meals
Accomplish small shopping trips alone (after receiving their license)
Resew buttons on clothing
Help parents with simple home or auto repairs
In a real world kids starting at the age of two are more capable of helping getting this done around the house. This is why I stated building routine as being important. If you get them used to helping at an early age they are more likely to keep up with exactly what we teach them and they will be neater and cleaner teenagers. Every moms dream. Haha!
I hope this helps all you mommy’s out there looking for a way to get a better routine going and getting yourself some me time.